Phone sex

cabinboy

Phone sex,

Im sure you all have opinions and experiences on this subject.

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cosmogirl

Honestly I found it a bit strange at first but once you relax it's a lot of fun. And it's different as you get to rely on your imagination (and I imagine like many here, mine goes to some pretty naughty places!)

I've always enjoyed it as I'm very big on noise so hearing my partner breath quicken in my ear as he gets closer to cumming is a definite fricken turn on!

Of course nothing beats the real thing but it certainly made his coming home even more memorable.

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msounds

Hi CB,

I know very little about it.. but I will share my bits.

- make her CUM [that's the whole point, isn't it? well - sometimes it gets lost in.. translation - or something - or it might not be so easy - regardless - you are the man - make her CUM!] [it's our duty!]

- focus [again - should be common sense - but.. phone sex can be very easily derailed from the subject and all the intensity/magic lost - if you are not paying attention]

- don't be afraid to be vocal - she only has your voice - and she enjoys it [hopefully]. Silent cumming is probably similar to no cumming. And.. so not erotic. At all. Selfish - I would say..

- make her CUM [as a man - you can always cum later - or at the same time - if you can synchronize your right/or left/or both hands - with your thoughts]

- do NOT be shy to share/give details of what YOU are doing [she is on the phone with you - she DOES want to know]
[oh.. and she cannot see you so - she NEEDS those details]

- DO breathe [in a way that she can hear it - _naturally_ - NEVER overdo any of the above.. or below - except for making her CUM]

- make her CUM [if she can cum a second time - or even more - she will surely appreciate it; for example, I know a very special someone who needs more than just words after cumming once - well, I will make sure she will CUM - a lot - with more than just words - soon]

- MAKE some sense [preferably - a lot of it] [I find it very natural and best if you actually imagine - all that you describe - and you try to immerse in that world you create for the two of you - and feel her - close; this way your words will flow smooth and her mind will be able to follow the action]

- do NOT jump from one part of the body or one action to the other - see the previous point; keep her in place. Pin her with your words as that's all you have.. at the moment.

- make sure you have time - BOTH of you!!

- foreplay, foreplay, foreplay - might not always be needed [depending on her mind/her state of mind] - however - it's always more pleasurable to use your words and slowly bring her mind to a very aroused state..

- make her CUM [the focus, again - should be on HER - not you. It is much easier for us to cum.. any way you look at it]

- if she is at work [or another place she cannot focus or talk] - DO consider that - and - adjust yourself accordingly [no, I didn't mean your pants - I meant thoughts and words - of course]. In most of those cases, it will take more from you to make her, what? CUM, that's right.

- LISTEN to her. Her breath, her words - reactions - moans.. is all I have to judge how she feels - or what she enjoys - which words - which direction should we go.. and so on. I cannot see her eyes [unfortunately - because she has gorgeous eyes..] but I can focus _everything_ on the.. sounds.

- depending on the type of person she is - sometimes she enjoys/wants to be guided - sometimes - not. Do not push if she prefers to guide her own fingers - she knows how to - MUCH BETTER than any man will ever do. After all, it is her body - and she does feel the sensation - we don't [there might be cases where she will indulge in letting you drive it all - and she will follow your words - precisely. Be very careful - one small mistake can ruin the entire session - or.. could be the end of it all]. She might be naughty and all - and in person she could be a beast but.. on the phone - keep some common sense handy - unless you know for sure she can go and do certain things.

- make her CUM [if you didn't - by now - well - I think you should be worried] :hammer:

- be OPEN [yes, NO is fine if she doesn't have time/cannot focus/you can't play - etc]. Always be open - is best for both.

- and - maybe most important of all - BE _YOURSELF_

There is nothing more disappointing to actually meet face-to-face and discover that you are _NOT_ the stud you claimed to be - or she is not the girl of your dreams.

Tell exactly what you like - and how you like it. She will remember those things - to the detail - so.. don't be surprised if she will pinch your nipples and you don't like it. Too bad - you didn't mention anything about them so.. you'll probably have to learn to enjoy it.. or just take her - hard.

[any comments here? :hammer:]

- do ask how it felt - who knows.. you might get some hints and learn to be better next time.

- be close to her - still - after she came - or you came. It's not a payed service [oh, you called a 1-900 number? sorry - this comment was for the regular, natural, candid phone sex] and she will enjoy it - even more.

- and.. the last one.. say 'Thank you!!'. Both should be thankful for each other - and for sharing those thoughts that the mind produced.. for pleasure.

And - if you both cum - thank her twice. For example - 'Thank you Li.. lover.. you were - wonderful. As always.. thank you.'

[do NOT use the above- it's just an example!] [plus - it is kind of copyrighted and holds my signature - you do not want to be taken as someone else now, do you?]

So - hmm - these are my bits.

Of course - they are being presented from a man's point of view - if anyone is interested I can probably - somehow - try and show both angles.. I was always fascinated by the mind.. and a woman's mind is even more wonderful.

As I said at the beginning - I am kind of a virgin in this phone sex area.. - any suggestions? :hammer:

Comments are welcome! Always.


Here,
MSounds

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lushi

Phone sex can be quite fun if you are comfortable with the person and often that takes a couple of phone calls just to become acquainted in that venue if you haven't otherwise met.

And even though your hints and tips are appreciated, zoundsy, we like to hear our men cum too. There is nothing more exciting -- other than the real thing -- then to hear the effects of our words on him.

Hearing his heavy breathing, moans and growls is inspirational. And the best is hearing him cry out my name. Wow!

In some ways phone sex is more difficult than cyber but it also takes as much attention to detail and concentration as really good cybersex does. The difficulty comes in being sidetracked by the addition of your partner's voice, his reactions and his desires for you. You want to please him as much as he wants to please you so it can be a bit of a delicious struggle.

No matter what, it is another dimension to experience and one that can be mutually satisfying and addicting as long as that aspect isn't taken for granted.

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nothingman

Ah phone sex! Once the initial awkwardness is past, it is a fantastic way to stay 'in touch' with a partner while you're away. The sound of the voice starting to quiver, knowing you're both getting closer to climax is an absolute turn on. And now they have camera mobiles, that makes it even hornier.

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