WHAT MAKES FOR A GREAT CYBER EXPERIENCE?

lushi

We've all done it...... eaten some cereal, sipped some coffee, or even filed our nails while cybering with someone in order to not stop the session or be rude.

What I'd like to know are two things:

A. What do you need for a cyber experience to be good for you?
Toys?
Talk?
Relationship with the person?
What?

B. How do you handle a poor cyber experience?
Tough it out?
Do other things?
Try to speed things along?
Tell the brutal truth?

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msounds

Good morning Lushi,

I never drink coffee.. and cereal? Hmm.. I don't think I have played so early [well, maybe once].

Filed my nails? Umm.. no. Thank you.

Not then.

You had some interesting activities there - clearly :hammer:


I have to say - the relationship - makes it.. so much better.

If that is not possible - the connection - must exist.

Otherwise.. what's the point?

It's all in the mind..

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Toys - yes - might help a bit - but only if you want to play away - and not listen so much at what the other has to say or.. maybe let the other guide that toy?

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I believe the place, the words, the common pieces you share - are all part of it.

It might also help - a lot? - if you discuss things before - as in.. what do you [dis]like - how - what are your limits [if any] - and so on. It does prevent some of the mistakes one can make with the other - when you don't know - each other.

Consider the timing - and the reaction - of the other person..

Most of the senses are not present - you only have the words.

And.. of course - _do_ pay attention to what you know about the other person - and how much you know about the other person - every little detail - counts.

Every little reference or familiar subject - will make him/her identify with what you say - and position him/herself.. easier.

Let the other understand you are either not comfortable - or.. you don't think it's working.

And - do not try it again - unless you feel.. aroused.

If he/she tries to force things - brutal truth will probably work best - if you are ready also for the reaction.

You have to decide if the poor experience is just an event - or.. something constant.

If it's constant - you have to think about where you want to take this relation.. and if it's possible.

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In my case, I know it is. Greatly, so.

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Hope this helped a bit.


Here,
MSounds

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lushi

This was just a general discussion topic to see what or how other folks felt about these things or how they handled them.

I actually had some one say that he had cybered several women at the same time. Perhaps that is possible, but who wants to know that? He certainly couldn't have been drinking coffee as well so what was that all about? Just because it was doable?

So there are several sides to this issue I think:

a. Motivation

b. Intensity

c. Gratification: none, personal, unknown


What do you other mindful sexiest of the sexy's think?

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WanderedHere

I don't see how he could get "into it" doing that, but some cybers are deeper than others, so I suppose it is doable, just not recommended.

To each their own, but I like to concentrate on what I'm doing!

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lushi

wand, you avatar is toooo hot to touch! sizzlin', babe!

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