First time group sex

erotic_section · 28th Apr 2007

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Rotsen wrote:

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greedyandneedy wrote:

We've talked about it though, and I don't see her going for it.

Why are guys so much more into the idea than ladies are?

Group sex and swapping place significent stresses on a relationship.
Women are perhaps more concerned with the effects of these than men.

Judging from the public record of the subject it is not always the women who are most affected, however.

Could it be simply an individual issue of security/insecurity?

Women are socioculturally trained to understand that "good girls" are monogamous and subdued - expression of sexuality is entertaining, but morally corrupt. You've heard the expression - she's not the type of woman you'd take home to mother. Men, on the other hand, are taught that being a "stud" is a good and acceptable thing. Both parties are expected to eventually settle down, bear children and continue in a monogamous, morally acceptable relationship, and breaking that mold is seen as threatening - threatening to society and threatening to the socio-culturally trained individual. It smacks against everything we've been taught. "Sex is sacred to marriage." "If I or my partner have sex with other people, it means there's something wrong with my relationship." "Being attracted to others means I'm morally corrupt," etc. What I propose, like so many others have proposed before me, is that sexuality is a natural part of us, and having sex with others does not have to threaten the marriage relationship. What is marriage? Many long-time, happily married couples will tell you it's a continuously evolving, communicative relationship based on love, not sex.

Just my two cents.

sandmn · 7th May 2007

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erotic_section wrote:

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Rotsen wrote:

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greedyandneedy wrote:

We've talked about it though, and I don't see her going for it.

Why are guys so much more into the idea than ladies are?

Group sex and swapping place significent stresses on a relationship.
Women are perhaps more concerned with the effects of these than men.

Judging from the public record of the subject it is not always the women who are most affected, however.

Could it be simply an individual issue of security/insecurity?

Women are socioculturally trained to understand that "good girls" are monogamous and subdued - expression of sexuality is entertaining, but morally corrupt. You've heard the expression - she's not the type of woman you'd take home to mother. Men, on the other hand, are taught that being a "stud" is a good and acceptable thing. Both parties are expected to eventually settle down, bear children and continue in a monogamous, morally acceptable relationship, and breaking that mold is seen as threatening - threatening to society and threatening to the socio-culturally trained individual. It smacks against everything we've been taught. "Sex is sacred to marriage." "If I or my partner have sex with other people, it means there's something wrong with my relationship." "Being attracted to others means I'm morally corrupt," etc. What I propose, like so many others have proposed before me, is that sexuality is a natural part of us, and having sex with others does not have to threaten the marriage relationship. What is marriage? Many long-time, happily married couples will tell you it's a continuously evolving, communicative relationship based on love, not sex.

Just my two cents.

Very well said. I hope that you continue to enjoy your lifestyle change.

SMA · 19th Apr 2008

From Experience I would suggest on holidays with some you don't know so well.
If its with friends you know sometimes others may find out later even by accident. Ie out at a party chatting with the couple and someone else overheard.

19th Apr 2008	#58
SMA mindspired Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Australia Posts: 8 Gender: Male	Re: First time group sex From Experience I would suggest on holidays with some you don't know so well. If its with friends you know sometimes others may find out later even by accident. Ie out at a party chatting with the couple and someone else overheard. __________________ Erotic Stories and Adult Literature

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