LOVE

peppercorn

This is a great thread with some great responses. I have loved a few people in my life for varied reasons. For me it always begins with a friendship. When I really enjoy the company of a person there is that danger of me falling in love with them. I fall for the personality that person is. I don't think I ever really lose that special place in my heart for that person.

But just because I can fall in love with that person, does not mean I could live with that person. I have had boyfriends I have been in love with, but there were some facets of that person's character that would have stopped me from taking things to that next level. That being said, when I fell in love with the man I married, I knew there was something extra special worth working towards and worth keeping. There was a special love that was shared by us both. This love grew with each passing year as our relationship developed and we smoothed out the rough edges that all people ultimately have to face. Because of our love for each other, we were both willing to make the effort to work things through and make compromises for each other. I am still married to the same man over thirty years later. That is truly special love. Love worth fighting for.

Can I still fall in love again? Yes, I can and I have. There are still wonderfully special people I hold close to my heart. Do I want to be with them forever? No. They are each special to me in their own way, but I have only one true love, and that is my husband.

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Hornyfred

Dear Boy

Like you I really don't understand what love is. Many people claim to be in love e.g. married couples, but the way they treat each other, or one party treats the other, I think it is that they have just got used to each other.

I think that a drive we call love, (whatever that means) was planted in us to propogate the race. After all it is hard to have sex with someone if you don't feel warm towards them.

Over the thousands of years we have added different feelings like, concern, caring, and desire to be with a person and called it love. To me sex is a "part of love", and does not have to be confined to being with one person to be a genuine love feeling.

In the final analysis I think love can be anything we want it to be providing it has the quality of genuine concern and caring towards the person "loved".

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