Dangerous Liaison’s

cosmogirl

In the short five months that I have been privy to this ‘world’ I have had a steep learning curve -I’m amazed at how easy it is to form an bond to someone. I have met some fantastic individuals and made some good friends…

I just can’t help but notice that I’m hearing (both in my day to day doings and on these such sites) of more and more people developing a relationship online.
So I wanted to open this up to discussion with the mindsters….

Do you think its possible to fall in love online?

Can the true nature of a relationship be conveyed through the cyber world with as much depth and feelings as that of a relationship IRL?

Can you really trust your emotions?

Please share your thoughts and opinions on this…

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nothingman

Is it possible to fall in love on the Net? Hmmm! This is an interesting post as I recently had some thoughts and discussions with somebody about it.

I think it is very easy to form a bond with somebody online and I thoroughly enjoy every moment I talk to people I've met on here. I class them as mates and have become close friends with some. As for falling in love however, I really don't think that is possible. Your feeling can be emotionally confusing though as I know it's easy to develop a close enough bond with somebody that makes you want to meet them in real life. And I believe this is where you will discover whether what you feel for them online carries over into real life. If you do meet somebody online, I think you should go for it if it's logistically possible. If you think that bond draws you close, I believe you should explore the possibilities of what it may become. I know I said I doubt people can fall in love online but I do believe it is worth taking a chance to see if any bond translates to romance in life. The world has changed after all, and anything is possible.

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lushi

I think the desire to make human connections is very real whether it's in this world or in RL. The trick is in maintaining them, but isn't that true anyway?

It is possible, you can develop very very deep bonds with ppl on here. I have friends that have been made here that I will keep for a long time whether we ever meet or not. On the other hand I think it is possible to get that butterfly feeling for someone on here as well. It's romance or lust enchantment or a crush or whatever you want to call it. But it is "cyber chemistry" no doubt. Does it last beyond here, I don't know. I would like to find out though, very much.

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msounds

Good morning Cosmo,

No, I don't think so..

I _KNOW_ so.

Very much possible - and real.

Yes, it can.

Reasons being - three [of course]:

One: You don't have the preliminary in-person contact/reaction/physical information [which prevents us from creating great bonds with people around us every day - because we filter them out automatically] - you only have the minds - talking to each other - directly.. and very openly so.

Two: The comfort level is much higher I believe - you can talk in your pj's [if you wear any] - or have your cat in your lap [if it's acceptable in your local customs] or any other comfortable scenarios you might think of - and not be worried that the other one will judge you or you need to be presentable or pay close attention to your moves etc - you just talk.. and share your thoughts.

Three: It has the potential to become probably the most solid of all bonds - and remain carved for life between you two - IF.. and _only_ IF - meeting that person face2face is NOT a disaster [see 'One' above]. It might _very easily_ happen so that when you meet the person something is not right or you don't like him/her [for various reasons] and well, all you thought and talked and discussed - it is going to vanish in seconds..

That's why - outside cyber-world - reason 'One' is easily filtering out people we don't enjoy having near and the get-to-know each other follows - after.. if it gets there. A cyber relation has no support - at the beginning - other than the MIND..

[I am assuming, of course, that both partners are truthful and say things as they are - about each other.. ] [otherwise, well, it's a whole different story about what can happen if truth is not present].

Hope this helped a bit..


Here,
MSounds

P.S. If you have _any_ doubts that you will match in person - or that you will like that person in real life - than you might be better of _not_ meeting him/her - and keep the relation in a virtual realm - your friendship will continue and neither of you will be hurt that way..

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nauti-grrr

For all the reasons msounds lists, I think it is very easy to fall for someone on-line. You have no social "norms" or stigmas to deal with, and it is probably the one true place where true "soulmates can find one another.... On the other hand, being on-line takes away those defense mechanisms we find so handy in filtering out the wheat from the chaff: physical appearance and verification, hearing tonal inflection to sense what the other person really means; taste and smell for acceptability/compatibility...

At some point I suggest most people in a relationship would like to move to the "real" level and meet... THAT's where the rubber meets the road...

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